Should You Try to Sing Better or Different? + Favorite Food Book



Growing up, I always was willing to try harder. I tried hard. I thought sheer effort and force of will was what life was about. What singing slowly brought me to realize, was when trying harder to get better is actually what's in the way of getting better. Some skills require increasing effort, like lifting weights. Other skills, like learning to enjoy eating healthy foods, learning to relate better to the people in your life and singing, require trying differently. 


I was in a choir with a guy (we'll call him John) who used to conduct himself as we would rehearse are music. The choir director would say "sing this section louder" and, instead of singing louder, he would make his conducting movements bigger. Then the choir director would say "okay, in this section be more expressive with those consonants!" and, instead of doing that, he would just conduct himself more fervently! 


I laugh when I think about this, because yes, it was funny, but in the sense that I relate to and see how I can do things like this, just like we all do...we try harder in the same way, instead of trying differently. If I went back in time and said to him "you know you should really stop doing that if you want to be better" (let's assume I was okay with giving unsolicited advice and he actually took said advice) what would he do? 


Well he'd focus on not expressing as much, in general. Withholding. In singing though, that's the opposite of what want. We want that energy and corresponding airflow to moving fluidly, unobstructed, along with the energy of the emotion and story of the song. So instead of fighting that particular habit, or being complacent to that habit, or even focusing on the habit, what we would really need is something else to focus on, a new way of expressing and letting that energy flow out. 


When you look at your singing with an eye to correct what is wrong, and only what is wrong, you might miss the point of singing all together: to express. 


Have you ever had that in your singing? Where you're so focused on what's "wrong" that you forgot that you enjoy singing? Or spent more attention on evaluating your singing rather than just singing? 


I've been there, many time over, and its a practice of mine to bring myself back to the core reasons why we sing, to center. It reminds me to stay with my intention, rather than be distracted by mistakes, and to show up differently to my life's inevitable problems, rather than try harder with my same habitual responses. 


This is all well and good, but maybe you have an audition coming up...and you want to sound the best, obviously. 


Here's the twist: I've been a judge, and I've seen singers in all kinds of styles and situations...and the ones that stand out to me, aren't necessarily the best. They are the ones that are memorable and that connect with you and me, the listeners who want to see themselves in those singers. 


So in voice lessons, the experience of sensing your voice in so many new ways that you've never experienced before, not only help you get better at singing, it not only helps you more deeply enjoy singing, it also is training ground to practice trying differently in other, stickier areas of your life...like in my case, food: 


I used to hate sardines. I had a whole tumultuous relationship with them. I was able to get sustainably caught sardines, at a price I could afford, in a convenient package. I would force feed myself these little fish, because I felt really good with them. It was always hard work to eat these things. 


So normally, I would push through with something like this, to eventually give up or just resign myself to it...but then I had a new way to try differently. Enter "French Kids Eat Everything" by Karen le Billon. In her book, she mentions that the French have their kids try something around 7 times, in 7 different ways, before deciding officially whether or not the child likes a certain food. 


So, being the enthusiastic-singing-bookworm-tryer-outer that I am...I tried sardines, 7 different ways, 7 times. I found my recipe. (hot sauce, lemon, sour cream, cilantro, yum). 

So what would this look like in your singing? 


I've come up with an exercise, so you can notice what its like to bring your attention to expressing yourself, sensing your voice differently and apply regardless of your skill level as a singer...beginner to experienced. 

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